Last Wednesday Wisdom for December
On the last Wednesday of every month, I serve up a potpourri of tidbits I've come across in recent weeks. This being the last post of 2016, I hope to offer a little inspiration for the year ahead.
Art is not a set of rules, but a harmony of whims.
-- Rubén Darío
No small part of sanity, I think, is accepting the distance between the discipline you think you should have and that which is actually available to you.
-- Naomi Jackson, author, in Poets & Writers, September/October 2016.
The purpose of the artist is to draw back the veil that leaves us indifferent before the universe.
-- Marcel Proust
I am not much of a believer in inspiration. Well, no, that's not true: Good writing needs a little lightning, which only strikes unbidden, coursing through it. But waiting to write until one is inspired is like waiting to have a drink of water until it rains.
-- Craig Morgan Teicher, poet, critic and freelance writer, in Poets & Writers, January/February 2017
Poetry is not a means to an end,, but a continuing engagement with being alive.
-- Kim Addonizio, poet, novelist and performer
Inspiration is not divine intervention. It's figuring out a solution to a problem.
-- Editors, Poets & Writers, January/February, 2017
The purpose of art is to stop time.
-- Bob Dylan
We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.
-- Maya Angelou
You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you. What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.
-- Jane Goodall
When I was a kid, this time of year was about one thing only: Christmas. All Christmas, all the time. Decorating the tree with ornaments that were comforting in their familiarity; writing detailed missives to Santa; visiting John A. Brown department store in Oklahoma City to ogle the dolls, trains and games; sitting on Santa's lap and refreshing his memory about the contents of that letter I'd sent him.
I wasn't the only one who got swept up in the holiday spirit. My parents did Christmas big. They crafted candles that looked like snowballs, whipped up batch after batch of cookies, fudge and divinity (a confection that belied its name, as far as I was concerned—I never could stand the stuff) and filled nearly every horizontal surface in the house with elves, reindeer, sleighs, crèches, holly and other icons of the season.
Then there were the outdoor decorations, my dad's territory. His was no blow-out-the circuits Griswold family Christmas display; his style was more subtle, with tiny white lights outlining the bay window, topiary flanking the front door, ribbon candy-striping the lamp post, and candles floating on poinsettia-shaped rafts in the courtyard fountain. One year his artistry even won the city-wide house decoration contest, besting showier arrays with rooftop Santas and plywood carolers.
Everyone we knew celebrated Christmas much as we did, except for the one Jewish family in the neighborhood, and even they engaged in some Christmas customs. But as the years went on and my world expanded, I met people who celebrated Yule, Kwanzaa and other holidays at this time of year. Everything I learned about their rituals enriched my appreciation of the season.
Recently, I learned about still more traditions from—of all places—a mail-order catalog that had descriptions of winter celebrations from many cultures sprinkled among its product offerings. In the spirit of giving, I'd like to share a few tidbits about some of the special days that captured my attention.
Bodhi Day—December 8
On this occasion, Buddhists commemorate the day when Siddhartha Gautama, sitting under the Bodhi Tree, attained enlightenment and became the Buddha or "Awakened One." Buddhists consider Bodhi Day a time to renew their dedication to wisdom, compassion and kindness, keystones of their spiritual path. They celebrate with meditation, chanting and performing acts of kindness.
Winter Solstice—December 21
In prosaic terms, winter solstice is an astronomical phenomenon marked by the shortest day and longest night of the year. In the Northern Hemisphere, this happens in December; in the Southern Hemisphere, in June. But since ancient times, people have attributed deeper significance to this event. While interpretations vary, many cultures consider it a time of rebirth and new beginnings—an opportunity to examine the deeper parts of one's being, to reflect on untapped potential and bring it into the light.
Among the many celebrations that coincide with winter solstice are these:
Pancha Ganapati—December 21-25
This modern Hindu festival honors Ganesha, lord of success and remover of obstacles. The festival focuses on mending past mistakes and making a new beginning. Each day, the whole family engages in a different sadhana or daily spiritual practice, centered on creating love and harmony in relationships or in the world. A statue of Ganesha is placed in a shrine in the living room, and children dress or decorate it each day in different colors representing Ganesha's five powers or shaktis.
As I read about these observances and consider what we can learn from each of them, I notice not only their rich diversity, but also their common threads. No matter what or how we celebrate, there's value in taking time out to gather with people we love, to share stories and wisdom, to reflect on days gone by and days to come, and to rededicate ourselves to kindness, compassion, love and harmony.
Some information in this post came from:
"Celebrating Bodhi Day for the 21st Century," by Lewis Richmond, The Huffington Post
"Soyal Ceremony: Hopi Kachinas Dance at Winter Solstice," by Jack Eidt, WilderUtopia
"Celebrating Yalda Night," by Firouzeh Mirrazavi, Iran Review
My DIY Writing Retreat
Every time I open one of the writers' magazines I regularly read, I see ads or articles about writing retreats and residencies. Ten days in a rustic cabin in Denali National Park. Up to twelve weeks in "the secluded hills overlooking the Temecula Valley in southern California." Two months on a 450-acre estate in New Hampshire, with private room, studio space and meals provided. Two to four weeks at Steepletop, the former estate of Edna St. Vincent Millay in Austerlitz, New York.
I imagine myself in one of these settings, free of all responsibilities, with nothing to do but write, take walks, think and write some more. What a blissful and productive existence! Then I think: Wait a minute. I live in the woods, in relatively secluded setting. Why can't I have my own writing retreat right here?
Well, for one thing, "right here" is home, and home is where bills appear in the mailbox, demanding to be paid; where laundry piles up; where groceries must be bought and meals cooked; where the telephone rings and the UPS guy knocks on the door; where household projects, hobbies and other interesting activities beckon; where I have a mate who gives me plenty of time and space to pursue my interests, but still deserves my attention.
Still . . . what if I could take a break from at least some of those things for a whole week? How much time could I free up for writing? I decide to give it a try.
I take a look at my calendar, find a rare week in November with no appointments or meetings, print "WRITING RETREAT" across five days and make a plan. I'll do-ahead as much as I can—laundry, grocery shopping, bill-paying—and I'll figure out quick-to-prepare meals. I can even write and lay out that week's blog installment in advance and schedule it to post automatically on the appropriate day.
I set a few goals (or at least intentions): revise and send off a chapbook-length piece I want to submit to a writing contest, finish a read-through and light revision of my memoir manuscript before starting a new round of queries, make headway (any at all) on my novel-in-progress, which has been moving slowly. Notice I don't impose any word-count goals on myself. I realize that works for some writers, and I certainly know how to crank out the pages when I need to, but I want to work more deliberately and thoughtfully during my retreat.
Then some decisions to make. Besides writing, what will I do—and not do—during retreat week? Keeping up my yoga practice and exercise routines seems essential—I don't want to turn into a slug—and not only my daily regimens, but also Monday morning group practice with the Woodland Yoga Women and Friday afternoon's hike with the Wander Women, which will give me doses of social activity as well. (None of this is such a departure from what writers do at "real" retreats, some of which have hiking and yoga built in.)
TV-watching won't be an issue—we don't have it—but I'll allow for one or two Netflix movie breaks. As for email and social media, I'll try to answer only essential emails and ignore Facebook and Twitter as much as possible. Ditto online news stories, which have been snagging my attention lately.
So far, so good. The next decision takes some thought, though. Some years ago, I read a book about preparing for and taking a week-long mini-sabbatical. It stressed the importance of letting all the important people in your life know that you're taking time out to focus on something that matters to you. I get the rationale: announcing your plans not only serves notice, it also strengthens your resolve by making you accountable.
I get it in theory, but in practice I find that advertising my intentions doesn't always work the way it's supposed to. Sometimes it seems that broadcasting my unavailability makes people all the more determined to interrupt me ("I know you're busy, but . . . ") and me all the more irritable when they do. So I don't talk much about my DIY retreat beforehand. I mention it in passing to Ray and a couple of friends but don't elaborate.
The designated week arrives. How does the retreat work out? Here's a day-by-day account.
DAY ONE (Monday)
I start the day with a short yoga workout, then read an article in a writing magazine about boosting creativity. Inspired, I head off to group yoga practice and post-yoga breakfast. As I'm leaving the restaurant after breakfast, my friend Brenda tells me about an upcoming photo exhibit and contest and urges me to enter a couple of prints. She'll even mat them for me. The catch: she needs them by Wednesday. Already a snag in my plans! I want to enter the contest, but I'll need to spend some time going through photo files on my computer and printing out my choices, and I've sworn off photo-related activities for this week. I'll figure out a way to fit it in without derailing my retreat. Count me in, I tell her.
After yoga and breakfast, I revise my chapbook entry and print it out to proofread later. Ray comes home from errands; I sit with him while he eats lunch, then get back to work, now on the novel. Around 3:30, I take a break for a walk and a free-weights workout. Then back to work proofreading the chapbook entry until dinner (planned-overs from yesterday—just heat and eat).
After dinner, instead of more writing as I'd envisioned, I go through photos on my computer, pick out some favorites, print them and email Brenda to arrange a time to drop them off.
Verdict: Off to a good start, making progress and managing to fit in a few other activities without getting off track.
DAY TWO (Tuesday)
Morning yoga, then over breakfast, I read articles in a couple of writing magazines. At my desk by 9 a.m., I spend most of the morning working on the novel, revising previous sections and writing the beginning of a new chapter. One phone call interrupts my train of thought, but only briefly. Just before lunch I make proofreading fixes in the chapbook entry and send it off to the writing contest.
At lunch, Ray—who, in his own burst of energy, has made progress on a home improvement project that's been languishing for. . . I won't say how long—reminds me that the next step is to stain and finish a piece of trim. This is my job. I could easily do it this afternoon, but I postpone it until the weekend.
I spend most of the afternoon and evening reading through memoir chapters, checking for places to strengthen the theme I'm emphasizing in my queries to agents and publishers. Time outs to answer a few emails, read two or three news stories, take a mid-afternoon walk and throw together a quick seafood pasta dinner.
Verdict: A focused and productive day. I doubt I could have done better if I'd been cloistered in one of those snooty estates or holed up in a rustic cabin.
DAY THREE (Wednesday)
Once again, yoga, breakfast and a little reading—today an article in Poets & Writers magazine about how speech-writing can make you a better fiction writer (bottom line: details).
Again at my desk by 9 a.m., I quickly glance at email and check to see that the week's blog post went up and the email to subscribers went out as scheduled. I take a few minutes to promote the blog post on Facebook and Twitter and scan #wwwblogs, where women bloggers—me included—post links to their blogs on Wednesdays.
Now it's 9:30. Eager to get to work, I open the novel file. Ray, having just hung up from a phone call, pops in to fill me in on family news and Christmas plans. He reminds me again about the piece of trim that's waiting to be stained and finished. When he runs out of conversation and goes off to the garage, I re-open the novel file. Just then the phone rings. Brenda is matting photos and is ready for mine.
Ray and I bundle up, drive into town, drop off the pictures, chat with Brenda. On the way home I remember that two books are being held for me at the library. We swing by, but it's 10:45 and the library won't open until 11. Ray remembers we're out of bananas and suggests going to the grocery store down the road while we wait for the library to open. We get the bananas. Still too early to pick up the books. We take a drive farther down the road to see what's new. Nothing is, but now we can get the books.
By the time we get home, it's 11:30. Now I'm feeling derailed—and frustrated. In an attempt to salvage the morning, I work on another memoir chapter until I hear Ray rattling around in the kitchen and know it's time for lunch.
With everything out of the way after lunch, I settle in for several concentrated hours of work on the novel. The writing is flowing, the characters and scenes coming alive in my mind and on the page. I could keep going until dinner time (last night's leftovers—another heat-and-eat). Except—my neck and shoulders are getting stiff. I need to move. And I'm hungry. Snack, treadmill, cool down, dinner.
After dinner, I'm brain-weary and body-weary. I forego writing and writing-related reading and instead read something entertaining.
Verdict: A more scattered day, but even so I got quite a bit of writing done.
DAY FOUR (Thursday)
This is not just any Thursday, it's Thanksgiving. That's right, I've scheduled my writing retreat for Thanksgiving week. Crazy? Not really, considering that we weren't entertaining or going to relatives' this year—we're saving all of that for the weeks around Christmas.
Even before I planned the retreat, Ray had suggested ordering our whole Thanksgiving dinner from Meijer, the mega-grocery 20 miles away. Food purists, I'm sure, will be aghast at this, and I'll admit I resisted the idea at first, knowing my home-cooked versions would be so much more healthful. But the thought of all those hours spent writing instead of cooking finally won me over.
So instead of chopping, baking and roasting on Thanksgiving morning, we drive down to pick up the pre-cooked meal and stick it in the fridge for later. Then I settle in to write. Again, the work flows. I'm there in the setting with the characters, whose personalities are becoming better-defined. I'm working on my laptop in the living room, the radio playing in the background, keeping company with Ray, who's lounging on the loveseat and reading Bruce Springsteen's autobiography.
By late afternoon, I'm stiff and restless and need to move. I pop the turkey in the oven to re-heat, organize dishes, set the table and put my laptop away. The rest of the day is our quiet holiday celebration: dinner, wine, a Netflix movie. The only writing I do this evening is in the gratitude journal in which we make entries every Thanksgiving.
Verdict: This worked out so well, I may never cook on Thanksgiving again. Not only did I get my writing done, I also felt like I was on a retreat: pure relaxation.
DAY FIVE (Friday)
Yoga, breakfast, reading (an article in Poets & Writers on crafting endings in fiction). Then I spend the rest of the morning—a good three hours--finishing reading through and tweaking my memoir manuscript. At mid-day I break for lunch with Ray. It's a drizzly day, and I consider staying home and writing more instead of hiking with the Wander Women. But I feel the need to get out and get physical, and I'm ready for more social contact, so I take to the woods.
Verdict: Like a good book, this week had a satisfying ending.
In some ways, retreat week was not so different from any other week in the writing life. Many writers put in this much time—and a lot more—week in and week out. I certainly did when I wrote for a living. Yet something did feel special and retreat-y about this week. I gave myself a time-out, granted myself permission to ignore things that normally distract me from writing, and committed to squeezing writing into as many spaces in my days as possible.
At the end of the week, I felt satisfied that I'd met my goals, modest as they were. Even more than fulfilling objectives, I'd discovered I can have a productive retreat without leaving home and husband. Now I know I can choose another week and repeat the process without turning my life and usual routines upside down.
Can you? Maybe it's not writing you want to focus on, but some other passion or project that gets pushed aside by daily demands. How can you carve out a little more time to pursue it? If you create your own DIY retreat, let me know how it goes.
Walking in Newaygo's Wonderland
In the 1988 movie "Funny Farm," Chevy Chase's character Andy Farmer—hoping to make a good impression on prospective buyers of the property he's trying to sell—bribes local folks to turn their town into a cheery, Christmas-y village worthy of Norman Rockwell and Currier & Ives. Carolers, sleigh rides, guys in Santa suits, the works.
If only he'd bought that property in Newaygo instead of Vermont, he wouldn't have had to go to so much trouble and expense. Newaygo's annual Christmas Walk, part of a multi-day holiday celebration, comes complete with twinkly lights, horse-drawn wagon rides, roasted chestnuts, carols—and crowds!
The first time Ray and I attended the event, just after moving here, we weren't expecting much. While Newaygo had a lovely little shopping district, we'd never seen it exactly bustling, especially in winter. We figured we'd join a few other hardy souls watching the Christmas tree lighting, wander into a shop or two to snag the free cookies we'd heard about and call it a night.
Imagine our astonishment when we turned onto the main street and found ourselves in the midst of a traffic jam. Cars were backed up in both directions trying to get into town, and people were already spilling onto the streets. When we finally managed to park and join the crowd, we were swept up in the festivity.
I guess that's what keeps drawing me back year after year. On the face of it, it's hard to explain the appeal of shuffling down the sidewalk with several hundred other people, jostling to get into shops that are usually easy to access but are mobbed on this night, taking in sights, smells and sounds—the tree lighting, the roasted chestnuts, the holiday songs—that change little from year to year. All I can say is, it's a night that blends memories of long-ago Christmases with anticipation of the coming season and makes the ordinary seem special.
A big part of the pleasure is running into friends on the street, in the shops or in the churches and the historical museum, which have special events and exhibits. So what if I just saw those friends a few days earlier—or that very afternoon? Everyone seems even friendlier at the Christmas Walk.
After our first experience with Christmas Walk traffic, we've made a point of arriving early and grabbing a bite in a local eatery. This year it was Newaygo Brewing Co., which was decked out with Christmas ornaments artfully hung from the chandeliers and wait-staff wearing embellished holiday sweaters (including one with "Ugly Christmas Sweater" knit right into the design).
Then, the slow procession down the street, but with a few new twists this year. The home furnishings store, Sui Generis, had just moved into its big, bright, new location in The Stream building and was holding its grand opening. Seeing the long-vacant corner of that building lit up and lively made for an uptown feeling. Down the street, Fuego, a new-ish fusion restaurant in nearby Grant, had set up a taco stand. When we stopped by, about an hour into the evening, they'd already sold 180 tacos and had to send out for more ingredients. It was heartening to see these local businesses—as well as others up and down the street—attracting customers.
A highlight of the evening was the photography exhibit and contest at Newaygo United Methodist Church (and not just because I had two photos in the show). I loved seeing the variety of artistic approaches and subjects—toads to tools, landscapes to loved ones. Apparently a lot of other Christmas Walkers did, too: more than 1,000 people came through the exhibit.
When I look at our calendar for the rest of the month, I see days filled with gatherings of family and friends, the local library book sale, and a smattering of meetings and appointments. It'll all be over so quickly, which makes me glad for getting an early start with Newaygo's Christmas Walk.
Do you have can't-miss holiday events and activities, or do you try to do something different every year?
Written from the heart,
from the heart of the woods
Read the introduction to HeartWood here.
Nan Sanders Pokerwinski, a former journalist, writes memoir and personal essays, makes collages and likes to play outside. She lives in West Michigan with her husband, Ray.